I’d like to say I have the answer for everyone, but I don’t. However, I do know what the truth is for me.
Bottom line…I think we were given life to enjoy and to grow—sometimes a pretty difficult thing to do when life isn’t so rosy. But I believe that the good and the bad are all part of it and that the struggles make the victories so much sweeter.
Certainly as a mother, much of the time it feels like an uphill battle, constantly hoping that one day all the hard work will pay off. It’s all front end work that can seem tedious, monotonous and endlessly confrontational with a few fun times thrown in…hard and mostly thankless work. Especially tumultuous are the middle school years.
Then, when the light at the end of the tunnel seems almost close enough to touch, we can lose everything, such as when my daughter Stefanie died…all that love, frustration, heartache, and the endless days of waiting until we could be friends, more than mother/daughter—all seemingly so pointless.
But was it really? Most of the time, I think to myself, “What a waste!” But Stefanie has given me more gifts through her death than I can count. She has taught me the most important lessons in life; primarily that life is to be lived in the most positive way possible, loving greatly without hurting others.
She also taught us that no matter what life throws at us, we will be fine and we can be better by using that experience to help those we love and strangers alike. It is incredibly empowering to know to my core that this is true. Once one’s faith is shattered, it takes awhile to get that confidence back, with or without “God”.
More that that, I am deeply grateful that I can instill that belief in my remaining children so that when they face adversity, they will KNOW that eventually they will be better for it.
We all have “stuff”, little or big, that we have to work through. Trusting that all will be as it should is extremely comforting.
We are wired to be of service, all of us, one way or another. When we make someone else’s life better, we improve our own.
Now, that’s not to say we can’t all have our guilty pleasures and have great fun in many different ways, but that’s all part of enjoying life.
Balance is the key.
So for me, the purpose of life is simple. I believe I have been placed on this earth to enjoy each day, accept my struggles and learn from them, indulge myself when I can but most importantly share the gifts I’ve been given for the betterment of others.
How would you define the meaning of your life?