Category Archives: Hope

Remembrance Day

What do we feel on Remembrance Day?  Gratitude – primarily, sadness – definitely, respect- without doubt, anger – maybe, frustration – probably,  but does forgiveness enter into it at all? This day has always held such meaning for me.  We … Continue reading

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The Grace of Gratitude

The “honour killings” of four women (the youngest 13 years old)  in 2009 was what began a conversation about gratitude with a girlfriend of mine last night.  The reality that we, with all the dysfunction that is family life, never … Continue reading

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Adoption vs. Biological Children

I wrote this article while waiting to adopt Elena in the hopes that it would reach those who might be struggling with the decision of if adoption was right for them.   During our PRIDE course we heard many stories from … Continue reading

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The Joy of Silence

I returned home yesterday after some time away to do some writing and it was probably the first time, in almost 4 years, that I was alone with Stefanie. One of the things I did as a survival technique was … Continue reading

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The affects of violence.

“I admire your strength. I’m still bitter and angry after all these years and not a holiday season will go by in my lifetime without me thinking about your daughter and Jane Creba and all of the other innocents whose … Continue reading

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Grief’s gifts

There is a kind of shattering that happens with the death of a child, particularly a violent one.  Aside from a heart left in a million pieces, you lose a sense of who you are or what life is all … Continue reading

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How many different people are you?

I had the chance to have an enlightening, albeit short, conversation with a girlfriend of mine who commented on my blog a few days ago. She made an interesting point in that when I write about the raw emotion of … Continue reading

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What losing your child to murder leaves in its wake.

Fear, insecurity, anxiety, trepidation, nervousness etc… Yesterday I had the good fortune to have a day for myself. My mother wanted to have Grace (3) for a special day with “grandma” which meant after I dropped her off, I was … Continue reading

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What possible silver lining could there be?

As some of you may know, my husband and I adopted two precious little girls from China since Stefanie’s death. (If you’re interested in knowing what it was like, feel free to visit my adoption blog at www.5xmum2b.blogspot.com.) The first … Continue reading

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Ian turns 16 today.

At 12 years old, Ian’s world was turned upside down.  His only full sibling was murdered just meters from where he was, and he was left to suffer the indignities of police interviews, a funeral, and then court. Ian grew … Continue reading

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