Category Archives: Guilt

Paul Bernardo…The Media…Re-Victimization

I believe that right minded people generally try to put themselves in the shoes of others and do so graciously. Of course, we can never know exactly how another person is feeling but we can imagine and act accordingly. A … Continue reading

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Feeling Vulnerable

…Anyone afraid of feeling vulnerable?  Anyone equate vulnerability to weakness? Recently at an event primarily made up of other police officers, I felt I had no choice but to step out of my comfort zone and ask a personal favour … Continue reading

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Things we all say.

Ever seen something on the news and said “Man oh man, if I could get my hands on that guy, I’d…?” Did it make you feel better…give you a sense of control?  Did it, perhaps, make you feel less vulnerable? … Continue reading

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Stop “shoulding” on yourself!

After over a month of fighting with NBC, and “winning”, the wind has left my sails and I’m exhausted.  I keep thinking, “I SHOULD do A” or “I SHOULD be doing B”, and of course, feeling guilty about it. The … Continue reading

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Feelings of Shame, Anger and Guilt

One of the first things I asked the Crown in charge of Stefanie’s case was, “Is there ANYTHING negative or embarrassing I need to know now about my daughter that could come out in the media?” I was so terrified … Continue reading

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Teen suicide has been in the news a lot lately and has touched our lives personally this past week.   Studies show that almost every person thinks about suicide some time in their lives.  It might only be in passing, and … Continue reading

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Restorative Justice

A year or so ago, I was contacted by the Oprah Winfrey Network to see if I would be interested in doing a piece on Restorative Justice – a way to connect the victim and their offender to repair the … Continue reading

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How to answer a difficult question.

I’d like to respond to a comment left by a friend of mine that I just had the pleasure of seeing this morning after a few years of working in different areas.   Since I don’t seem to be able to … Continue reading

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When is the right time to forgive?

There was an article in the Globe and Mail titled “A mother’s story: Her love never stopped” written by Gary Mason.  It wasn’t what I expected because it was about the mother of the male accused of kidnapping a 3 … Continue reading

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