Tag Archives: Stefanie Rengel

Thank you from my family to yours.

It would be impossible for me to thank everyone individually who supported us in our efforts to stop the NBC production of Stefanie’s story. I am so relieved and filled with pride at the end result, with so many small … Continue reading

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No Such Thing as Closure

I often wonder who the “expert” was who invented the concept of “closure”.  I’m sure whoever it was had never had a loss any greater than a toenail. Of course, it sounds like a great concept, an end to our … Continue reading

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Feelings of Shame, Anger and Guilt

One of the first things I asked the Crown in charge of Stefanie’s case was, “Is there ANYTHING negative or embarrassing I need to know now about my daughter that could come out in the media?” I was so terrified … Continue reading

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Happy Birthday Stef.

Today I watched a three minute talk on TED by a women, Stacey Kramer, that was very fitting for this weekend.  On Sunday, Stefanie would have turned nineteen. As usual, it’s, quite frankly, a crappy time when all the “if … Continue reading

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How will you cope through grief?

As we waited 3 long days for the jury to return with a decision of guilty or not guilty for Melissa Todorovic, we were, naturally, unhappy and stressed, yet there were many moments of levity.   I dare say there might … Continue reading

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“I got a pain in my chest, and I can’t breathe” – George Lopez

Before Stefanie died, she liked the comedian George Lopez who, in a thick Latin accent said “I got a pain n my chess and I can’t breaf”. Stefanie and Ian used to cackle at her imitation of his accent and … Continue reading

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For the greater good, could I do it?

After one month of marriage, the police arrive at her door.  Her husband had been charged with aggravated sexual assault and kidnapping and there was no mistake because he turned himself in.  She shouldn’t have been overly surprised, of course, … Continue reading

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Will it ever end?

This morning at breakfast, Patrick (6), who was only two when his sister was killed, reminded me, in the most innocent of ways, that he is still hurting and that his sister is at the forefront of his thoughts much … Continue reading

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Who will we meet at the fork in the road?

We just never know where each fork in the road, each seemingly insignificant decision, is going to take us, nor all the great people we’re going to meet along the way. I’m not a great long-term planner—never have been—rather ironic … Continue reading

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When you don’t know what to do or say.

During the first few weeks, and for months after Stefanie’s death, we noticed that as hard as it was for us, it was also very difficult for anyone we knew.  All but a few people were at a loss for … Continue reading

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