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That Bullet Goes Both Ways

A good friend of mine, a retired SEAL, has taught me many things.  I’m fairly certain that the majority of them haven’t been terribly profound, such as the intricacies of Californian language structure (i.e. ‘whew hew’ versus ‘woo woo’) but … Continue reading

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How can we help?

Is there anyone who isn’t looking for answers to the tragic events in Newtown Connecticut?   …Anyone who hasn’t wondered what would possess someone to slash kindergarten-aged children in the ears and face with a knife in central China?  These types … Continue reading

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Paying it forward.

…Any one else feeling a bit overwhelmed by recent events? For those of us in Toronto and the surrounding area, the horrible shooting in Scarborough and the shooting in Colorado were both so unfathomable. I have heard countless opinions on … Continue reading

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“I got a pain in my chest, and I can’t breathe” – George Lopez

Before Stefanie died, she liked the comedian George Lopez who, in a thick Latin accent said “I got a pain n my chess and I can’t breaf”. Stefanie and Ian used to cackle at her imitation of his accent and … Continue reading

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The Power of Now

Today is one of the hardest days of the year for us.  We wake up with a weight on our chests that regardless of what we do, just won’t budge. I’m no neuroscientist but here is my analogy of how … Continue reading

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Albinism – the ugly truth.

A few years ago there was a cluster of news specials on the atrocities in Tanzania with people who have albinism.  There are still countless stories of albinos being hunted down and their limbs hacked off for sale to witch … Continue reading

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The Grace of Gratitude

The “honour killings” of four women (the youngest 13 years old)  in 2009 was what began a conversation about gratitude with a girlfriend of mine last night.  The reality that we, with all the dysfunction that is family life, never … Continue reading

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Adoption vs. Biological Children

I wrote this article while waiting to adopt Elena in the hopes that it would reach those who might be struggling with the decision of if adoption was right for them.   During our PRIDE course we heard many stories from … Continue reading

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How many different people are you?

I had the chance to have an enlightening, albeit short, conversation with a girlfriend of mine who commented on my blog a few days ago. She made an interesting point in that when I write about the raw emotion of … Continue reading

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Facing Our Fears.

One of my ex-partners (work, not life) came by my place a few months after Stefanie’s death even though he felt uncomfortable. I did everything I could to put him at ease but I still feel badly about that day … Continue reading

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