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That Bullet Goes Both Ways

A good friend of mine, a retired SEAL, has taught me many things.  I’m fairly certain that the majority of them haven’t been terribly profound, such as the intricacies of Californian language structure (i.e. ‘whew hew’ versus ‘woo woo’) but … Continue reading

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The Four Agreements

Who of us wouldn’t want the freedom to be who we truly are without worrying about what other people think? I just finished the book “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz and it is his opinion that if we … Continue reading

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Dealing with Problems

All of us have problems.  Some big and some small but none of us can escape that fact and we spend a lot of energy trying to become problem-free. According to a parable of the Buddha, we each have eighty-three … Continue reading

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Recovering from Grief

I’ve always loved my brother, and sometimes his bluntness makes me love him all the more.  Yesterday at breakfast, he professed that never in a million years could he ever be married to me.   In all honesty I wasn’t the … Continue reading

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The power of the mind.

I had the distinct honour of participating in a teleconference with Dr. Bernie Siegel (www.berniesiegelmd.com) last night and was both impressed and inspired with his work.  A surgeon with 30 years experience and numerous books, including “Faith Hope and Healing” … Continue reading

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The Grace of Gratitude

The “honour killings” of four women (the youngest 13 years old)  in 2009 was what began a conversation about gratitude with a girlfriend of mine last night.  The reality that we, with all the dysfunction that is family life, never … Continue reading

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Adoption vs. Biological Children

I wrote this article while waiting to adopt Elena in the hopes that it would reach those who might be struggling with the decision of if adoption was right for them.   During our PRIDE course we heard many stories from … Continue reading

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Grief’s gifts

There is a kind of shattering that happens with the death of a child, particularly a violent one.  Aside from a heart left in a million pieces, you lose a sense of who you are or what life is all … Continue reading

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Try to reach out.

One of the reasons I wanted to start this blog was to reach out to anyone who had lost a child to murder (primarily) and also to those who were also struggling with the aftermath of losing someone.  Thank goodness … Continue reading

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Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Wow, that’s pretty harsh isn’t it?  But that might be the best advice I could give to help anyone to start moving past their emotional pain.  Now I’m not suggesting that it’s easy, not at … Continue reading

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