Tag Archives: death of a child

How can we help?

Is there anyone who isn’t looking for answers to the tragic events in Newtown Connecticut?   …Anyone who hasn’t wondered what would possess someone to slash kindergarten-aged children in the ears and face with a knife in central China?  These types … Continue reading

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Stop “shoulding” on yourself!

After over a month of fighting with NBC, and “winning”, the wind has left my sails and I’m exhausted.  I keep thinking, “I SHOULD do A” or “I SHOULD be doing B”, and of course, feeling guilty about it. The … Continue reading

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No Such Thing as Closure

I often wonder who the “expert” was who invented the concept of “closure”.  I’m sure whoever it was had never had a loss any greater than a toenail. Of course, it sounds like a great concept, an end to our … Continue reading

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Tori Stafford

In her article of May 11th, about the Tori Stafford verdict, Christie Blatchford writes: “To borrow from the imitable Canadian lyricist and singer Leonard Cohen, it may have been a cold and broken Hallelujah, but it was a Hallelujah nonetheless”. … Continue reading

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Patrick Strikes Again

Once again, Patrick, now six years old, blows my socks off. After dinner tonight, I took just him out to ride his bike up and down the street.  At 8pm the girls were in bed and although it was still … Continue reading

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Will it ever end?

This morning at breakfast, Patrick (6), who was only two when his sister was killed, reminded me, in the most innocent of ways, that he is still hurting and that his sister is at the forefront of his thoughts much … Continue reading

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Recovering from Grief

I’ve always loved my brother, and sometimes his bluntness makes me love him all the more.  Yesterday at breakfast, he professed that never in a million years could he ever be married to me.   In all honesty I wasn’t the … Continue reading

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The Power of Now

Today is one of the hardest days of the year for us.  We wake up with a weight on our chests that regardless of what we do, just won’t budge. I’m no neuroscientist but here is my analogy of how … Continue reading

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The power of the mind.

I had the distinct honour of participating in a teleconference with Dr. Bernie Siegel (www.berniesiegelmd.com) last night and was both impressed and inspired with his work.  A surgeon with 30 years experience and numerous books, including “Faith Hope and Healing” … Continue reading

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Suicide

Teen suicide has been in the news a lot lately and has touched our lives personally this past week.   Studies show that almost every person thinks about suicide some time in their lives.  It might only be in passing, and … Continue reading

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